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¿Cómo ser parte de la realización del sueño de volver a las escuelas, institutos o universidades de nuestras comunidades de adultos latinos inmigrantes de ambos sexos para por fin completar o iniciar las carreras que dejaron de lado, así como adquirir conocimientos que siempre desearon explorar? ¿Cómo ayudar a encaminarles para que esta nueva aventura de aprender sea una experiencia pausada, transformadora y llena de momentos felices?
La historia de cómo María Eugenia Carranza logró graduarse de la universidad con una especialización en educación primaria es un ejemplo que nuestras comunidades con deseos de volver a las aulas de universidades comunitarias o de universidades deberían tener en cuenta.
A la edad de 55 años, María Eugenia, como muchas otras personas de su generación, llegan a los salones de clase con experiencias de aprendizaje que van del horror de todavía sentir la vara que les lastimaba las manos o las piernas o de sentir los nudillos huesudos del/la maestro(a) en el cráneo, hasta pasar un día entero llevando en la cabeza orejas de burro y expuestos/as a las burlas de compañeros/as o, todavía peor, pasar horas en soledad repitiendo por escrito cien y más veces la palabra o la frase mal escritas y finalmente decirse “soy un fracaso, mi cabeza no sirve para el estudio”. Por no mencionar el ataque a la identidad y el dolor causado a niños y a niñas a quienes se les prohibía hablar o escribir en su lengua materna. María Eugenia cuenta que todavía siente el dolor de la vara en las piernas y que al tratar de expresarse en español, su lengua materna, temía ser castigada y que, aunque parezca extraño, por alguna razón, según ella, estaba convencida de que no sabía expresarse bien en inglés, su segundo idioma.
Nunca olvido ni olvidaré la invitación casi alegre a pesar del dolor y la preocupación, ese “sí, entre no más” proveniente de hombres y mujeres, de jóvenes y de personas de avanzada edad a quienes he visitado como visitante pastoral voluntaria en los pisos donde se recuperan pacientes latinos(as) con dolencias y complicaciones del corazón, y que en algunos casos, esperan con ansias la llegada y la posibilidad de un trasplante de ese órgano que ellos y ellas esperan les salve la vida.
Mi entrada a esos cuartos siempre va acompañada de las miradas de los/las pacientes y a menudo de las de sus familiares o amigos/as. Miradas a veces tristes, a veces alegres, a veces esperanzadas, o las más preocupantes, las miradas de haber ya como abdicado a la lucha por la vida. En cualquier situación en la que se encuentren estos/as pacientes, es evidente que el poder comunicar en su lengua materna los/las lleva casi de inmediato a un espacio personal, muy suyo propio, donde sus espíritus siempre agradecidos(as) pueden compartir sin esfuerzo su fe en Dios y en el poder sanador divino que ha guiado las manos de doctores(as) y enfermeras(os) para devolverles a la vida.
Pastoral care is a basic expectation of clergy and probably high on the list of any given parishioner’s understanding of what they get in return for their participation. I know that church isn’t a give-and-take but our current base of support is pretty steeped in this understanding. So what happens, then, when we try to organize under a different model? Does becoming a missional church mean that we won’t have time to act as the quaint, local vicar, the one who’s at everyone’s beck and call?
If we were in a seminary classroom or, for instance, reading a blog we’d of course say that ‘missional’ and ‘pastoral’ are not exclusive concepts. This is true … in theory. In practice, they can very quickly become competing goods. Be honest: where’s the time to dream and envision when you’re running around the parish responding to crises and acting like the 21st century country parson?
The latest theory about the chronic (and nearly universal) decline in Average Sunday Attendance is that not only are we not attracting very many new people to our churches, the people we’ve already got are coming less often. I don’t study church attendance, but the
theory matches my experience as a parish priest.
Many of my colleagues have responded with impassioned, well-reasoned and theologically sound defenses of the importance of weekly (or at least very regular) church attendance. “Church needs you!” we are told. And it does.
But I wonder if we’re missing the diagnosis. I’m not sure that people don’t get the importance of being in church. I’m not sure that they don’t see the benefits of worship and fellowship. I suspect we are suffering from a massive, collective case of sabbath insecurity.
I had a grieving parishioner who started coming to church regularly during a terrible year of tragedy and loss. This person would arrive, sit down in the pew, and promptly fall asleep, waking only to take communion, and then only if jostled.
Scolded by an embarrassed family member, my parishioner sighed -- guilty as charged -- and said, “I can’t sleep at night. I can’t sleep in the daytime. My mind is full of terrible things. But when I sit down in church, I fall into the most peaceful sleep. Sometimes it is the best hour of the whole week.”
Sunday is our sabbath. But do we rest when we come to church? Do we experience that peace which passes all understanding, and let our weary souls lean back on the everlasting arms? Is coming to church a time of replenishment, or just one more place where we are called to be engaged and at the ready?
Los que hemos recibido malas noticias sobre nuestra salud sabemos lo sorprendentes, devastadores, atemorizadores y llenos de ansiedad que son esos momentos. Muchos médicos y médicas de cabecera nos piden que vayamos acompañados de seres queridos a esa cita casi fatídica que sentimos como una sentencia de muerte. Por un lado nos embarga el estupor, la pena, el temor. Interiormente nos decimos, “Dios Mío, por qué a mí, por qué en este momento si no hay nadie en mi familia que haya padecido este cáncer, si yo me cuido, hago ejercicio, vivo una vida sana”. Por el otro, el instinto de supervivencia entra en pleno vigor, y con una fuerza nueva que proviene de muy adentro de nuestro ser, comenzamos a enfocamos en el cuándo y dónde de las diferentes intervenciones para tratar de lleno la enfermedad, para curarnos y hacer realidad la esperanza de seguir viviendo.
Si somos personas de fe, nos aferramos a esa fe en un Dios presente, que nos acompaña, que nos va a dar la fortaleza necesaria para afrontar la enfermedad y fortalecer a los seres queridos que en ese momento también pasan por lo mismo. Si podemos sobreponernos al peso emocional de todo lo que se nos informa sobre lo que implica, por ejemplo, el tratamiento de un cáncer, algunos empezamos a buscar información y pensamos en obtener segundas y terceras opiniones. Otros nos limitamos seguir las instrucciones y depositamos nuestra confianza en las intervenciones médicas.
Denise, my fiancé (we got engaged a little over a week ago) is out of town for a few days at a retreat. Left to my own devices, I am prone to eating too much cereal and watching too much television. Fortunately, she left me some groceries and recipes, and thanks in part to her encouragement, I’ve gotten into the habit of going to the gym.
This kind of accountability grows not out of guilt but out of love. I know that someone loves me, and if I don’t take care of myself, if I’m unhappy and unhealthy, it will hurt her. Importantly, these and other changes in my behavior are changes I wanted as well, I just needed a little help getting there.
Denise and I met in church, at St. Lydia’s, and while most relationships formed in church don’t end up in marriage, I think that the church can and often does foster strong relationships that help us to grow and change for the better. This happens, I think, by creating an atmosphere of honesty, openness, and forgiveness.
Some weeks it’s tough to keep up spiritually and emotionally with all that swirls around us. In the last couple of days we’ve seen images of devastation coming out of Oklahoma. We continue to be pummeled with disheartening world news and violence in our communities, even as many of us are still trying to process the Boston Marathon bombings, the explosion at a fertilizer factory in West, Texas, and the collapse of a clothing factory in Bangladesh.
As people of faith, our first response is prayer. Upon hearing about the latest tragedy or disaster we get down on our knees and pray. Or at least close our eyes for a moment at the next stoplight or post a prayer on Facebook. Sometimes we pray because we know it’s what we’re “supposed” to do; sometimes we pray because we can’t thing of anything else to do; sometimes we pray because it’s part of our ongoing and life-long conversation with God; and sometimes we pray because we know it matters.
Yet it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed to the point of “prayer fatigue.” We’re bombarded on all sides by tragic news, horrific images, and interviews with the bereaved, all of which contribute to an overall feeling of helplessness. As many of us are discovering, there’s only so much capacity the human brain has to respond to grief, sadness, and traumatic events. We could become hermits and spend all our days in prayer and, still, it wouldn’t be enough. We’d just be scratching the surface of the world’s needs. As we seemingly face crisis after crisis it’s easy to feel that prayer doesn’t matter or that it doesn’t change anything.
My day was not off to a good start.
I had taken my car in for a routine oil change and tune-up. Something unrelated had gone wrong in the process and now it refused to let the mechanic make it happy. It was entirely possible that I would be shopping for a new car before the week was out.
I needed to clear my head and do something positive, so I jumped in my loaner car and headed for the gym. I checked in, headed for the locker room, started to change…there were no socks in my bag. Seriously? No socks.
I’ll walk the dog instead. That will be good for both of us.
By the time I got home it had started to rain.
Now I’m really feeling sorry for myself.
I’m feeling guilty about every stupid little thing that’s going wrong because this particular bad day happens to be Tuesday, the morning after the Boston Marathon.
In the midst of it a wise friend said, “The relatively small problems of our lives don’t pause when there are these big tragedies going on.”
Nunca olvido ni olvidaré la invitación casi alegre a pesar del dolor y la preocupación, ese “sí, entre no más” proveniente de hombres y mujeres, de jóvenes y de personas de edad avanzada a los que visité como visitante pastoral voluntaria en los pisos donde se recuperan pacientes latinos(as) con enfermedades y complicaciones del corazón, y que en algunos casos esperan ansiosamente la llegada y la posibilidad de un trasplante de ese órgano que podrá salvarles la vida.
Mi entrada a esas habitaciones de hospital siempre va acompañada de las miradas de los/las pacientes y a menudo de las de sus familiares o amigos/as. Miradas a veces tristes, a veces alegres, a veces esperanzadas o, las más preocupantes, las miradas de haber ya como haberse dados por vencidos en la lucha por la vida. En todas las situaciones en las que se encuentran estos/as pacientes, es evidente que el poder comunicarse en su lengua materna los/las lleva casi de inmediato a un espacio personal, muy suyo, donde sus espíritus siempre agradecidos pueden compartir sin esfuerzo su fe en Dios y en el poder sanador divino que guió las manos de sus médicos(as) y enfermeros(as) para devolverles a la vida.
... in pastoral visits to single elderly Latino women (Spanish
There are a great number of elderly Hispanic women living alone in the United States. Many are forced to fend for themselves. In traditional Latino familial environments we tend to grow up and live in close proximity to our grandparents and other elderly family members, often living in extended households, so the reality of growing old alone is foreign to us.
In our Latino culture, as well as in many other cultures, taking care of an elderly person in the family home continues to be a common part of life. Typically a son or daughter volunteers to take care of his or her elderly parents. In part, they do it knowing that the greatest beneficiaries will be their own children. For Latinos, grandparents are ideally seen as treasure troves of knowledge and kindness.
When I enter the homes of the single elderly ladies that I visit to offer pastoral support, I regard their spaces as sacred repositories for their memories, lovingly gathered and faithfully kept. Every single corner is adorned with something that delivers visual pleasure; something that manages to keeps each woman company in her daily life.
...En visitas pastorales a ancianas latinas que viven solas. (English
Sorprende mucho enterarse que en este país haya tantas ancianas latinas viviendo solas, y más aún, que valerse por sí mismas a una edad avanzada, sea su deseo y determinación propia. No entendemos claramente esa realidad en la vida de muchos ancianos y ancianas en este país porque la mayoría de nosotros crecimos junto a los abuelos o junto a familiares que vienen a envejecer a nuestros hogares. En nuestra cultura latina y en otras varias culturas, cuidar del anciano o la anciana en el hogar familiar ha sido y todavía es una de las reglas de la vida. Uno de los hijos o de las hijas se ofrece y se encarga de albergar a sus padres entrados en edad. Y, en parte, lo hacen sabiendo que los que más se benefician son los nietos, las nietas, los sobrinos o las sobrinas. Para nosotros los abuelos y las abuelas son un tesoro lleno de sabiduría y dulzura.
Al entrar en los hogares de las ancianas que visito con el fin de ofrecerles apoyo pastoral me encuentro ante verdaderos museos del recuerdo, colectados amorosa y fielmente por la reina y señora soberana de su espacio sagrado. No hay rincón que no se muestre adornado con algo que prodigue placer visual, algo que acompañe de alguna forma el diario vivir de su dueña.
From Luke’s Gospel:
Jesus said: “The fact that the dead are raised Moses himself showed, in the story about the bush, where he speaks of the Lord as the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. Now he is God not of the dead, but of the living; for to him all of them are alive.” Then some of the scribes answered, “Teacher, you have spoken well.” For they no longer dared to ask him another question.
(From the Daily Office Lectionary – Luke 20:37-40 (NRSV) – December 6, 2012.)
“When those blue snowflakes start falling, that’s when those blue memories start calling,” runs a line from Elvis Presley’s Blue Christmas. While most of us are getting ready for happy family reunions during the holidays, and clergy and liturgical ministers of all sorts are preparing for one of the year’s biggest crowds, we may forget that Christmas can be a time of great sadness for many. Mental health professionals note that the Christmas season may be one when many people avoid church. Millions of Americans suffer from the “holiday blues.” I know this all too well because December 21st is the anniversary of my mother’s death.
I love the holidays. I enjoy Advent candles and the Christmas decorations, picking out a tree, the midnight service on Christmas Eve. And, I occasionally find them stressful. There’s always a lot to do. As an employee of the church I’ve had to print all the extra bulletins, make sure we had plenty of candles and other advent supplies, and prepare for Christmas, in addition to my own personal Christmas preparations. Most years I had a long to-do list.
It’s at times like these that we should strive to be conscious of the needs of the congregation. It’s easy to get caught up in the tasks that await us or to focus on our own families and neglect the church family. This may not be true of everyone, but I have found that, as a church employee, when I have a long to-do list, answering requests from parishioners goes down on my list of priorities. I’m more worried about checking all the immediate tasks off the list then attending to the less concrete needs of the congregation. I can become more concerned with the Christmas bulletins rather than considering whether parishioners have the support they need during what can be a difficult season for some people.
Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Then he goes on to say a bit later to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your father in heaven.”
With the ever-increasing polarization of our society today (think politics, religion, etc.), it’s vital that we, as Christians, understand what it means to be a peacemaker. Christians are drawing lines in the sand. Dioceses, parishes, and vestries are being torn apart. Many Christians find themselves on opposing sides from one another. But a wise friend of mine taught me that an effective peacemaker doesn’t draw a line in the sand, nor do they stand on one side or another; rather “they take their foot and erase the line altogether.”
The Episcopal Church has ALWAYS been a body of all sorts of believers, actively trying to live out their baptismal covenant to “respect the dignity of EVERY human being.” Lately, though, many of my fellow Episcopalians are feeling like they don’t belong, and that’s sad. The truth of the matter is that we all belong. There IS room at the table for YOU, regardless of your political or theological stance, your sexual identity, your race, gender, etc. How can we promote peace among nations if we can’t promote peace in our own backyards or even in our own sanctuaries?
A few years ago, I was putting the Advent schedule on the parish website and had the impetus to make some other improvements to the site, but I managed to crash most of the pages of our website and a 404 error was generated when you tried to view it. That is, anytime someone went to click on that link, they saw, “404 error, page not found”.
Yikes. Thankfully, it only took me the rest of the afternoon, albeit panicked, to figure out my mistakes in the page code and then once again, all was right in our little patch of cyberspace.
When I saw the video “404, the story of a page not found,” a TED Talk by Renny Gleeson, a light bulb went on in my head. Not only for how I might redesign my 404 page to make it less annoying, but also with other areas of my ministry.
In his talk (a short four minutes, I highly recommend), Mr. Gleeson shares his insight related to how experiences, such as reaching a broken link, make us feel and, the power we have to manage that feeling. His examples of companies intentionally using humor, inspiration, and other creative means within the design their 404 error page illustrate ways to transform the annoyance of reaching a broken link to an experience that could even be fun, or at least not such a disappointment. Those moments become opportunities to build better relationships, or as Mr. Gleeson put it, “A simple mistake can tell me what I’m not or remind me that I love you.”
In so many ways, this is a fundamentally Christian principle.
The headline reads “Churches respond in many ways to help storm-battered communities;” reading the article, it is very clear that people are the church.
In this time of declining church attendance and the pressing need for money to maintain our aging buildings, it is easy to think about church as institution, as someone else. “Why isn’t the church doing more to recruit new members?” is an oft heard refrain as if the clergy or the vestry or the diocese, or someone, anyone, other than the speaker is responsible for bringing things back to the way they were.
As after any devastating storm, fire, or other disaster, people step up in service to others. Today, it is happening in the areas affected by Hurricane Sandy as people – paid and volunteer – work together to bring relief to those for whom ‘normal life’ has ceased to exist.
I encourage you to read this article by Sharon Sheridan, a reporter for Episcopal News Service. The people of her parish, St. Peter’s in Morristown, NJ answered an early call to serve as a warming and recharging station for people who had lost power. Recognizing that many of the people who were coming were hungry, the parishioners organized and began serving meals.
I spend a lot of time consuming information and entertainment, from television to news, blogs and books, music and podcasts and NPR. I’ve been following the election and watching the debates, as well. There’s always new information and new culture to absorb. It’s good to keep abreast of what is happening in the world, but sometimes constantly trying to keep up with the latest developments means that I’m never quiet, never really listening to the still small voice within.
Yesterday, however, I spent about six hours on a bus. I was traveling to Connecticut for a church function. The function was quite lovely, but I may have enjoyed the bus trip even more. While we traveled out of Manhattan and then through the hills covered in the fall colors, I read a little and wrote in my notebook, but I refrained from spending much time on my phone or listening to music on my earphones. For the most part I watched the passing countryside outside my window.
Small things matter. This is something that I am occasionally reminded of during the busy times of the year. Many church staff and vestry members are busy in the fall as new programs start up, and it can be easy to forget how important it is to spell someone’s name correctly or to make sure a congregational meeting gets into the Sunday bulletin.
Church and emotions are inextricable. At work we can pretend that nothing is personal, but in the church separating our emotions and the administrative details can be difficult. It’s easy to misplace a letter or forget a name when you’re working in a small office on a particularly busy day. Unfortunately, the amount of attention you might pay to the spelling of someone’s name may be connected to how they perceive their importance in the community. If your name is spelled wrong, it can feel as if the staff of the church don’t know or care who you are.