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By Richard Simpson
Are you conflict averse? Most of us learn at an early age to sometimes give the expected answer – rather than a truthful answer - as a way to avoid conflict. In “Overcome Being Conflict Averse” Rich Simpson names this phenomenon and invites leaders to help their congregations move past this conflict avoiding behavior and instead discover how having difficult conversations may instead lead to deeper relationship, healing, and reconciliation.
By Bonnie Anderson
Speaking up is important in congregations headed down the path of – or embroiled in – conflict and angst. In “The Courage to Speak” Bonnie Anderson reminds congregational leaders of the promise we made in our baptismal covenant to respect the dignity of every human being. She offers approaches for clergy and laity to consider that might head off these difficult situations.
By Scott Petersen
What can a church learn from a soccer referee? In “title” Scott Peterson, priest and a soccer referee, draws our attention to the ways an experienced referee, in the heat of the moment restores order and engenders trust in his/her decisions. He offers the referee’s steps as a guide for reacting to conflict when it flares up in a church setting.
By Kay Collier McLaughlin
“Suwa Bona… I See You, I Hear You” by Kay Collier McLaughlin introduces ‘Holy Conversations,’ a process developed in the Episcopal Diocese of Lexington to help congregations paralyzed by conflict, anger, grief, and/or fear begin the healing process necessary for them to live fully into their ministry.
By Ken Howard
Ken Howard serves a congregation that attributes its health to its practice of “being church first, do church second.” In “Vestry as Body of Christ”, Ken shares how this understanding plays out in the structure and processes of St. Nicholas’ vestry.
By Loren Mead
There ARE crises that come along that you have to meet.
By Ward Richards
Conflict. It’s inevitable. It occurs every day, in every facet of our lives.
By Lindsay Hardin Freeman
Skeletons in the sacristy? We have one — figuratively, at least — in our church.
By Henry Nutt Parsley, Jr.
Conflict can be difficult, especially in the church.
By Katharine Jefferts Schori
Conflict and controversy are intrinsic to the church, even if many of us would prefer to live and worship in communities that never disagreed about anything.