August 10, 2012 by Nancy Davidge

I couldn’t believe my ears. I had my mouth full of not-that-great mini chocolate bundt cake when my friend asked me – in front of the baker – what I thought.

Earlier in the day I had been thinking about the problems that often arise when people are less than forthcoming when giving feedback. The context was work situations: over the summer, I’ve heard a number of stories in which employees who loved their work were thinking of leaving – or had left – due to new managers who appeared to be uncomfortable with, or unable to, use feedback as a tool for encouragement and effective performance. “I’m one bad meeting away from leaving,” is a good descriptor of the frustration I was hearing.

These stories have common elements, all of which distill down to a lack of shared understanding/clarity regarding expectations.

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August 6, 2012 by Jeremiah Sierra

As an administrator at a nonprofit and later a church, I was often seeking volunteers. However, it turned out that sometimes volunteers actually created more work. I’d occasionally have to refold the bulletins, or sometimes there was plenty of work to do, but it all required lots of explanation and supervision.

I suspect that many church employees and experienced church leaders have had this experience. Managing volunteers isn’t always easy, but it’s worth the trouble. We want people to feel connected and invested in the church, and not just because they tithe.

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July 17, 2012 by Miguel Escobar


Next week, as part of the Episcopal Church Foundation's pilot project Barnabas,  I will be helping to lead a webinar for a small group of seminarians, clergy, and vestry members on leadership for a changing church. Because it is a pilot project, we are experimenting with new methods for fostering group discussion online. This includes watching select YouTube videos in advance and then engaging in "group discussion" via webcams and conference calls. 

One video that I'm sure will provoke good discussion is the following seven-minute overview of Edwin Friedman's theory of differentiated leadership. The video explores a wide variety of topics that might be interesting to congregational leaders, such as:

Why sabotoge might be a sign that you're doing something right What triangulation looks like and how to respond What it means to be a non-anxious presence

Do you think this applies to your congregation? Why or why not? Please share below.

Topics: Leadership
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July 2, 2012 by Jeremiah Sierra

In college I spent a lot of time with a group of friends, who were so nice that they didn’t like to disagree, or sometimes even express an opinion. This made choosing a restaurant difficult on Friday nights. Out of a desire to defer to each other, we would have difficulty making any decision at all.

Months ago my church, St. Lydia’s, used a two-step method of decision making that could be useful when choosing a restaurant with your friends or when making major decision in a vestry. St. Lydia’s is a new church, still working out how to make decisions, and this was a major decision about whether or not to affiliate with a denomination.

First, we expressed our personal opinions in a vote. This was based solely on our preference regardless of others in the group. There was some discussion afterward in which we explained our preference, and we could also say how strongly we felt. In college, for example, I could vote for Thai food (I loved the chicken in peanut sauce), and then I could express that I was flexible since we went to the Thai restaurant a lot. My other friend might say he really wanted pizza tonight. This was a chance to know where everyone stood.

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Topics: Leadership, Vestry
July 2, 2012 by Richelle Thompson

Part of the job of a communicator is to hold a funnel to the fire hose.

This is especially true over the next two weeks, as the 77th General Convention of The Episcopal Church commences in Indianapolis.

Deputies and bishops will meet in committee hearings, then legislative sessions, considering hundreds of resolutions. I will only report on a handful.

This is not about censorship or steering people of my diocese to one direction or another. Rather, selecting the top dozen or so issues gives a focus to General Convention, providing information about key decisions instead of foisting every detail on an audience.

This won't appease the handful of people who want to know the details of every dot and tittle. But I'm banking on the dedicated policy wonks already being at General Convention or soaking up bandwidth by watching the live stream provided by The Episcopal Church’s communication office (http://episcopaldigitalnetwork.com/gc2012/)

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June 29, 2012 by Peter Strimer

I have put together a screening committee to help me select a new leader for our children and youth ministries. At St. Andrew’s we are coming to the end of a seven-year period where our children and youth ministries have been directed by a fun, gifted young woman who will leave this position to become a college chaplain. She came to this ministry fresh out of seminary. She was not yet ordained and her primary experience had been working with college age young people. In the course of these past years, she has become a priest and learned on the job what it takes to direct a church school and youth program.

We know much better now what we seek in the right candidate to become our Director of Children, Youth, and Family Ministries. We learned what we know from four open sessions to which we invited parents during the month of June. Here are some of things they shared:

“We want our kids to have a sense of belonging” “We hope that they will know the joy in service to others, friendships, values, fun, and laughter at church” “We need regular, repeated, constant communication about activities and opportunities” “We parents want ways to connect and opportunities to get to know each other” “We want someone who is fun, nurturing, and a good listener” “Let’s get someone who can channel children’s wild energy into joyful service”

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June 22, 2012 by Peter Strimer

My worst surprise returning from sabbatical was to find that my bishop had hired away my Director of Children and Youth Ministries to become the chaplain at the University of Washington. He now owes me a curate and two deacons to be named later, because I had designated her my franchise player. Hers will be hard shoes to fill.

As I begin our search process I am struck by how much a ministry is defined by the person filling it. We often think of programs in a functional sense, plugging in the necessary personnel and resources and hoping for the expected results. However, the incarnational aspect of each appointed minister is at least as important.

I have appointed an assisting priest and a good group of parents to develop the job description and bullet points that can be shared with candidates. Language like “energy that kids can connect with” and “strong communications skills” are certainly part of the profile. The functions required to perform the task are key components of any search.

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June 11, 2012 by Jeremiah Sierra

I’ve spent quite a bit of time editing people’s writing: In my MFA program, while working on a ‘zine for Episcopal young adults, and now in my job at Trinity Wall Street. It’s not always easy. A person’s writing is his or her creation, and it’s not easy to hear criticism to make changes to something you care about. At its best, editing can be a collaborative process.

The process of editing ultimately offers lessons for any creative collaboration. In many endeavors within the church, there must be some who creates the first draft of the essay, the budget, or the liturgy, and others who critique, suggest, and sometimes criticize. Collaboration requires self-confidence, empathy, the ability to communicate clearly, honesty, and humility. Whether writing an essay for the newsletter, creating a budget, or planning a fundraiser, these are some guiding principles:

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June 8, 2012 by Peter Strimer

As I have re-entered after my sabbatical, I have become painfully aware of what a priest with oversight of a congregation actually does with their time. I am also aware at how much of this is subterranean in its aspects with regard to the wider knowledge of members of the church.

One of our children said to me when I returned, “So you are back to work now? Do you really only work on Sundays?” Hardly. Take a look at a list of meetings and activities from my datebook for a week ago as an example.

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June 7, 2012 by Richelle Thompson
I was dubious.
The only item on the agenda for our two-day staff retreat: Bible study.
Don't get me wrong. I think Bible study is important. But as a type-a, list-maker, take-action person, I wondered if we would accomplish enough. After all, a two-day meeting is a big commitment of staff time, and all of our to- do lists are lengthy.
We opened with morning prayer, then launched into Bible study.
For the next two hours, our conversation meandered, moving from personal reflection to corporate insights. Still the discussion was varied enough that I couldn't even capture bullet-point notes. I was a little worried. 
But I learned a good lesson. When we root our work in scripture, we create space for the holy spirit

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June 6, 2012 by Nancy Davidge

As July approaches, and with it our church’s 77th General Convention, I find myself looking forward to the 10 days I plan to be in Indianapolis. My first General Convention was 2003 in Minneapolis and, despite having taken an “Introduction to General Convention” course at Episcopal Divinity School – and working many large conferences and conventions during my career in for profit marketing – I was unprepared for the enormity of the event. Walking to and from the hotel each day, it appeared that downtown Minneapolis had been taken over by Episcopalians.

Yet, within days, I felt at home. I’d mastered the layout of the convention hall, made friends in the media room and exhibit hall, and experienced incredible hospitality and welcome. And, because I had taken the intro course, I understood the legislative process taking place in the House of Deputies and House of Bishops and could explain it to the secular media covering the convention.

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June 4, 2012 by Jeremiah Sierra

Last weekend I attended an ordination to the diaconate for a friend in which Bishop Gene Robinson preached. Among the advice he gave to the ordinand, was this: take your office seriously, but don’t take yourself too seriously.

This is not new advice, but it is good advice. And the advice is not really about our sense of humor. It’s about our sense of perspective. It’s about understanding that while we, as a church, are doing important work, we ought to avoid developing an inflated sense of ourselves.

When the church is unable to take criticism, when it can’t take a joke or it can’t see it’s own foibles, it’s probably on its way out. Of course, the other end of the spectrum is not taking ourselves seriously enough, and undermining our ability to actually make a difference in the world.

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Topics: Leadership
June 1, 2012 by Richelle Thompson
There's a reason you don't throw the baby out with the bath water.
I've been thinking about this adage through the extensive discussions about structure -- both on the church-wide level and within dioceses and congregations.
It's clear that the some of the current structures aren't nimble enough to provide support for the challenges and opportunities facing our communities of faith. But that doesn't mean structure itself is a bad thing, but rather we must ask: do we allow form to dictate function or is the form an organic outgrowth of function?
Let me give an example.

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May 23, 2012 by Richelle Thompson

Having bad news appear on the front page of a local newspaper is easy.

Getting the attention of a reporter – and editor – for good news is the challenge.

When our bishop closed a local church in 2008, the handful of members took their fight to the press. Even though attendance had dipped to single digits, the church was important to those faithful few.

Our bishop acknowledged this attachment but felt strongly that the church building and facility could make a more meaningful contribution to the surrounding community. Located in a poverty-stricken neighborhood with high crime and few dreams, our bishop envisioned a place that would work with neighbors to transform the community.

Nevertheless the stories in the newspaper were wrenching tales of people losing their faith home. And the interview and subsequent reporting of the bishop’s comments were disappointing and misleading.

It’s easy for bad news to make the paper.

As this former church building began its new ministry, it was much harder to get the attention from the reporter and editors. Every three or four months, I would send an e-mail to the reporter, copied to the editor, telling them about the progress of the ministry. Now called Gabriel’s Place, the church building was being used nearly every day, instead of just Sundays. A dozen of more community partners joined forces, with an initial focus on food.

The urban neighborhood is known as a food desert, a place where healthy and affordable food is hard to attain. The last grocery store closed in 2008.  Today Gabriel’s Place offers garden plots for local residents, a greenhouse, fish hatchery for tilapia, an industrial kitchen and youth cooking classes. This mix of sustainable projects came from direct conversation with residents and leaders about their most pressing needs.

Four years after the initial stories ran – and a dozen or so story pitches, I received an e-mail from the reporter.

“Sorry to have been out of touch. Way too much going on here to stay sane. That said, I was struck and interested in Gabriel's Place when you pitched the idea to me late last summer … I now have a much better understanding of Gabriel's Place and the brilliance of the idea that the bishop and his committee put together.

“I am writing a story for the weekend … and I can't do it justice without a voice from the Episcopal Diocese. In a day and age of mega churches force-feeding their idea of goodwill down a neighborhood's throat, it is so nice to see a religious body listen to a community and work in collaboration to develop a ministry.”

Wow.

We immediately set up a phone interview with the bishop. I prepped some talking points and at the close of the interview, the bishop asked the reporter about his new book on Haiti. They began to build a relationship.

The interview went well, we thought. But you never know how a story will shake out until it’s printed. So we waited.

Yesterday, patience and persistence paid off. On the front page of The Cincinnati Enquirer, above the fold, the headline read, “When Avondale said it needed healthier food and a community center, a church listened and created Gabriel’s Place.”

A How to Help box accompanied the story on the front page, and the jump of the story covered about two-thirds of the page and included a nice picture and great information about the ministry.

Working with the media is an inexact science. What appeals to one editor might be shot down by another. Reporters bear enormous stress to deliver dynamic stories, despite facing diminished news hole, possible lay-offs and competition by bloggers, TV, radio and Internet outlets.

But I learned two important lessons here:

We were really upset with how the initial story was handled. But you can’t break ties with a reporter or newspaper because you don’t like how they covered one story. Sometimes, you’ve got to suck it up and move on, repair the relationship and try again. Keep planting the idea. God’s time (and that of newspapers) is different than ours. You never know when an idea might take root.

I don't know how many of the newspaper's 170,000 subscribers read the story, and we'll see how many respond. But no amount of marketing or advertising could have better shared our mission of who we are as a church and as a people trying to live into God’s call.

“A church listened.”

It was worth the wait.


May 22, 2012 by Miguel Escobar

This weekend I came across some research which gave me pause.

In the 1980s, two MIT researchers looked at the relationship between how long a working group had been together and that working group’s communication with “outsiders”. The key premise of their research was that the most effective working groups frequently receive feedback from people outside their immediate sphere. Outside feedback included the suggestions and insights of those whom they were serving, conversations with people doing work in a similar field, or the insights of consultants brought in to assist with a project. Not surprisingly, the research found that the longer a working group had been together, the less they seemed to want feedback from the outside. In The Leadership Challenge, James Kouzes and Barry Posner summarize the MIT researchers' results as follows:

They’d been together so long, it appears, that they felt they didn’t need to talk to outsiders. They were content just to talk to each other. It’s easy to understand, therefore, how some workgroups and organizations become myopic and unimaginative. The people themselves aren’t dull or slow-witted; they’ve just become too familiar with their routines and isolated from outside influences.
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Topics: Change, Leadership
May 21, 2012 by Richelle Thompson

It figures, harrumphed a colleague. Totally an ENTJ.

And, she continued, his ENTJ doesn’t leave any space for my ENTP.

So, I think to myself, I am LOST.

I have never undergone an extensive Myers Briggs personality test. But I’m amazed at how often it’s referenced in work and volunteer situations. It gives people a tool to understand why they approach challenges in different ways.

The vestry at our new church is undergoing a similar leadership assessment through Gallup’s StrengthsFinder. Even though many on the vestry have known each other since grade school, they’re learning new things about each other – and themselves. They are identifying strengths as individuals and as the leadership body. And of course, they’re able to look at areas for growth.

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May 16, 2012 by Miguel Escobar

Many are saying that we are living through one of the most polarized periods in U.S. history. They point out that we, as a nation, are now divided into extremes: left and right, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican. What's more, the long-held practices of civility, agreeing to disagree, of reaching across the aisle in search of consensus, are now widely viewed as ineffectual and naive.

Against this backdrop, I find it fairly remarkable that many Episcopal churches continue to use consensus to make key decisions about their congregational life. It is truly countercultural!

As anyone who has ever been part of such a process knows, deciding by consensus can be a sort of endurance test for all involved. While inspiring, it is also lengthy, trying, and it assumes a heightened ability for working across differences. One leadership group* defines consensus decisions as "ones where each and every member of a team is willing to support and help implement the decision. All key stakeholders have had an opportunity to give their opinion and understand the implications of various options. All members, including the leader, have the same formal power to support or block proposals.” Click here for steps in consensus decision making processes.

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Topics: Leadership, Vestry
May 14, 2012 by Richelle Thompson

I’m not gonna lie. The idea of turning 40 sucked.

I spent some time moping last week. It didn’t help that my kids started teasing, calling me oldy-moldy or old-and-crusty. Then a co-worker prefaced a question to me with “O, ancient one.” He was referring to my 10 years on diocesan staff (I think), but I was feeling a little raw.
But on my birthday – and throughout the weekend, somehow the number didn’t bother me at all.

Without a few years behind me, I wouldn’t have old friends to remind me how the smell of tomatoes made my stomach turn when I was pregnant with my first child. There wouldn’t be a table full of parents and in-laws, my children and nieces and nephews, talking over one another as we share schnitzel and spatzle at my favorite German restaurant.

Without growing older, I couldn’t witness my 10-year-old daughter crossing the finish line of her first 5K or feel my son’s arms wrap around me, his head nuzzling in the hollow of my neck. I couldn't lace my fingers through my husband's, absently holding his hand, knowing each callous and scar.

I stopped feeling old and started feeling blessed. 

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Topics: Change, Leadership
May 11, 2012 by Chris Yaw

Editor’s Note: Guest blogger Chris Yaw’s passion is healthy churches. His ChurchNext ministry puts the spotlight on a diversity of ministries that are flourishing. He records and shares interviews with faith leaders so others can learn from their experiences. Click on the Interview link below to watch the video or download a podcast.

It’s one of the Church’s biggest mistakes: over-reliance on one person to do the bulk of the work (planning, visioning, preaching, organizing, cleaning gutters… you name it).

In this new, inventive, age, the Presbyterian Church USA’s Landon Whitsitt, author of the book Open Source Church, thinks that the day of the ‘super-pastor’ is way over – and that the Body of Christ does its best work in collaboration. Landon says he’s a cross between a software geek and a church geek – and he’s making some interesting discoveries as a result. 

Landon thinks anybody can be a leader – and it’s up to today’s clergy and active lay-people to open up to the amazing ways God is using God’s people to touch the world. Watch or listen to this interview and be energized by this gifted theologian.

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Topics: Leadership, Vestry
May 10, 2012 by Nancy Davidge

Conversations related to governance are everywhere. State and national elections dominate news reports. In New England, we are in the middle of Town Meeting season; earlier this week I listened to passionate arguments for or against leaf blowers, dog bites, and new drains during Marblehead’s Town Meeting. And, at ECF Vital Practices, our May/June 2012 focus in on church governance which means that I’m actively seeking stories and resources that may help congregational leaders interested in learning more about our Episcopal polity.

Here are some of the online conversations I’ve been following: 

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Topics: Leadership